October 20, 2012

Wedded Bliss And A Full Bladder

Posted in Shock tagged , , , , , at 11:49 pm by Debbie

I’ll admit it. I’m a romantic at heart. A real sap for happily ever after. I enjoy the beauty of a wedding and respect the privilege of witnessing the moment when two hearts bond as one.

So when our friend’s wedding rolled around this past weekend, I didn’t think twice about carrying on with plans to attend. I’m at that age where my children’s friends and the children of my friends are becoming real-life adults – complete with weddings, babies, jobs that mean a career, and all sorts of they’re-all-grown-up events. Makes me feel old, but that’s a conversation for another day.

What I wasn’t prepared for was the pain. Truth is, it didn’t help that I purchased and nearly drank an entire 32 ounces of Coke less than 30 minutes before the wedding. I suppose some of the pain I experienced was the ache of my over-full bladder. And wouldn’t you know it – not a bathroom in site. Clearly, not one of my smartest decisions. That aside . . .

I smiled with sadness when I saw the grandfather of the groom in attendance. My husband had anxiously awaited the day he’d become a grandfather. That day will never come. My heart cried when I saw the gorgeous bride walk down the aisle with her father. My daughter will never know that joy. I felt an ache deep in my soul when the bride and groom lit a unity candle. I remembered our special day, more than 27 years ago. And I was afraid I’d keel over if I heard “til death do you part”. Thankfully, a different phrase was used.

At some point toward the end of the ceremony, I realized a few things. This day wasn’t about me. It was about the bride and groom’s love for each other. It was their day. True love is simply breathtaking. That, and if I didn’t find a bathroom I was going to be very embarrassed.

I’m learning how to live with grief. Events, moments and occasions that I encounter help me carve a place for that grief somewhere deep in my heart. Those that pass by give me strength to handle those that lie ahead. Weddings? Bring ’em on!

The bathroom? No, I never did find it. Luckily there was a gas station nearby.


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